Sobhita Dhulipala’s take on being whole yet wanting love will shift how you see emotional maturity in relationships: ‘In his absence, I would not be full’

In a conversation with News18 Showsha, she explained, “I was feeling quite emotional, so I just spoke from that space at that time. It’s a little bit like Carl Jung’s theory. There are people who believe that we meet our soulmate, or they complete us. I don’t think like that. I feel like we are complete on our own. Some people arrive at that feeling much earlier, some people take a while to realise that ‘okay, I don’t need someone to make me feel like this, it’s within’.” 

She continued, “But in that journey, while we reach there, I think there is a longing for someone — I guess someone who complements us, someone who’s the yin to your yang or yang to your yin. And it’s not like they come and like complete you, but through them you realise those parts of your personality. So in that longing is where I think a lot of love is born.”

Her reflections also touched on the realities many couples face after marriage. Life has been busier than she expected. “I thought, after getting married, I was going to chill for a bit and explore Hyderabad, but I have been shooting for two films. It’s been over 160 shoot days, so I’ve been mostly in Tamil Nadu for that. It’s been exciting.” 

When asked how they find time for each other despite demanding schedules, she added, “If you like something, you like to do something, you will make it happen. And it will feel easy. If you don’t like something, even the most convenient thing can feel like, ‘oh, so tough’.”

Looking back at her first year of marriage, she described it and warmly: “It’s been blissful, great. I’ve been in a very, very inspired state creatively. I feel greatly empowered.”

 

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But how do we understand the balance between emotional independence and emotional connection in a healthy relationship?

Counselling psychologist Athul Raj tells indianexpress.com, “In my sessions, I often see this as the sweet spot of emotional maturity. Being ‘complete’ means your identity and emotional grounding are not built on someone else’s approval or presence. You know who you are, you can soothe yourself, and you have a life that stands on its own. Yet feeling ‘not full’ without a partner speaks to the natural human need for intimacy – not as a crutch, but as an enrichment.”

A secure bond doesn’t diminish individuality; it brings in companionship, softness and a sense of shared emotional space. “Healthy relationships allow both partners to show up as whole people, while still acknowledging that love brings a depth and comfort that solitude cannot fully replace,” notes Raj. 

How love emerges from recognising parts of ourselves through another person

Raj agrees that a partner can reflect qualities we overlook or suppress. “When two people complement each other, their differences feel like a balance rather than a burden. But complementing turns into dependence when someone becomes the only source of emotional steadiness.” 

The line is simple, he says,  if your partner’s presence supports you but their absence doesn’t destabilise you, that’s complementarity. “If your sense of security collapses without constant reassurance, that leans toward dependency. Healthy love expands your emotional world; it should never replace your foundation.”