4 min readNew DehliAug 3, 2025 05:00 PM IST
First published on: Aug 3, 2025 at 05:00 PM IST
Shruti Haasan recently opened up about why she’s chosen to stay unmarried. In conversation with Ranveer Allahabadia on The Ranveer Show podcast, she shared how marriage still scares her, not because she doesn’t believe in love, but because it’s a big step.
When Allahabadia asked her why she came to the decision not to get married, she replied: “I just want to say, I’m petrified of the idea of marriage. I’ve worked so hard my whole life to be my own person, that the idea of attaching it to a piece of paper feels really scary to me. That’s it.” Instead, Haasan believes in commitment, loyalty, emotional connection, and growing with someone — all the things marriage is “supposed to represent”.
Gurleen Baruah, occupational psychologist and executive coach at That Culture Thing, told indianexpress.com that deciding your timeline for life’s milestones, like marriage and other significant decisions, is crucial for personal empowerment and mental well-being.
“As adults, we possess the autonomy to make choices that align with our values, feelings, and circumstances. While society may impose norms and suggest ‘ideal’ ages for achieving certain milestones, like settling down or starting a family, it’s important to remember that these are human-made constructs,” she said.
Choosing your own timeline
She mentioned, “There isn’t a set age for reaching life milestones such as marriage or having children. Many people make these decisions when they are younger, and that’s perfectly fine if they are ready and feel fulfilled. The key point is that these decisions should be based on personal readiness rather than the pressure imposed by others or societal norms.”
Baruah further added, “Research has indicated that, from a biological perspective, the part of the brain responsible for effective decision-making, logical thinking, and delaying gratification — the prefrontal cortex — continues developing into a person’s mid-twenties, with the average age of full development being around 25. This suggests that many people feel more in control of their choices and develop a better understanding of themselves after this age.” However, this is just an average, and it doesn’t hold true for everyone.
From a psychological perspective, Baruah stated, delaying milestones can allow individuals to gain a deeper sense of self-awareness and emotional maturity. As people age, they often become more secure in their values, desires, and long-term goals. This emotional and psychological growth enables them to make decisions that are more aligned with their authentic selves, rather than feeling pressured by external expectations.
How can you navigate such situations?
Navigating family or cultural expectations while honouring your own timelines for major life milestones can be challenging, especially in collectivist cultures like India, where family plays a central role in decision-making. The key to balancing these expectations is through respectful communication and mature dialogue.
She explained, “Start by having an open and honest conversation with your family. Let them know that you deeply value their opinions and love them, but that choosing your own path doesn’t mean you’re disregarding their guidance or being disrespectful.”
In many Indian families, parents often feel protective and think they know what is best for their children based on their own experiences. “It can take time for them to understand that times have changed and that individual preferences play a significant role in today’s decision-making processes,” she promises.
Discuss the non-negotiables and negotiables openly. For instance, you might let them know that while you respect their concern for your future, you also have specific dreams, goals, or personal readiness that you want to honour before making significant decisions like marriage or starting a family.
Shruti Haasan on why she doesn't want to get married.
(Source: Instagram/@shrutzhaasan) 
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