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Karma Sutra: Why we don’t get along with certain people

When we have an unfavourable debt to settle with someone, we are instinctively programmed to react negatively towards them.

Written by Ritu S | New Delhi |
June 15, 2015 12:10:29 pm
spirituality-mai To break free of this negative karmic cycle we need to curb our reaction. (Source: Thinkstock Images)

Keeping pace with life’s ever changing scenario can be quite confusing. Different people, situations and things bring out a different person out of the same ‘us’. How and why is it that the same ‘me’ is different with different people? Aren’t I either good or bad? How can I be both good and bad in life’s changing situations?!

Life is a play of duality. Existence, which is the energy at play, is also dual in nature- positive and negative. This energy resides in each one of us as the ego-self (negative) and the divine self (positive). The web of karma is intricate. It weaves our life in a manner wherein we come across people with whom we have a karmic debt to settle. These debts are either favourable or unfavourable, depending on our past interactions with them. When we have an unfavourable debt to settle with someone, we are instinctively programmed to react negatively towards them. But by doing so, we create a karmic cycle with that person.

To break free of this negative karmic cycle we need to curb our reaction. Animals are programmed by nature and cannot curb what comes instinctively to them. As humans we can exceed the programme. We have the ability to work on ourselves and curb our instinctive reactions. Let us exercise this privilege that has been gifted to us. It is said – ‘svabhavo vijayti iti shauryam’, to overcome what comes instinctively to us is the greatest victory.

So, much as we have an unfavourable karmic account to settle with people, we also have the freedom to transform our negative energies and forgive them. Compassion for our fellow human beings makes forgiveness easy. Plato had once said, ’Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.’

Once we’ve recognized that our karmic account with a person is not conducive for a friendly association, it’s best to keep our interactions with them to a minimum. However, if the circumstances don’t permit it, then use this opportunity to be rid of any further entanglements with them by exercising utmost restraint over your reactions. And with every passing interaction, you’ll be moving further and further away from the person in the ethereal world (world of cause and effect) and eventually the material world.

Having shed your excess karmic baggage you travel light here and hereafter.

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