“People see only what they want to see. People listen only what they want to listen.”
For years, I have been hearing the rhetoric that India is the land of Khajuraho and Kamasutra, thus all the Indians should be more vocal about sex. I see a lot of pages on social media putting provocative graphics around the theme to increase their likes through sharing of such content. They try to polarise people and make them have arguments, which again increase their visibility. Supporters of vulgarity keep organising a number of protests with the slogans like- “In India you are allowed to PISS in public, but you cannot KISS in public”
People defecate in public due to two reasons- there are not enough toilets or they do not have the basic civic sense. Where does the word ‘ALLOW’ come from? I strongly condemn the act of pissing or defecating in public but the problem cannot be solved unless we work on the two above-mentioned factors. Can one wrong justify another? Likewise, people kiss in public because of two reasons- they do not have a place to kiss or they do not have the basic civic sense. Imagine a couple kissing everyday right in front of your house because they have the right to make love. How comfortable will you and your family members be? And there’s no guarantee that this madness will stop at kissing? Today people need the right to kiss in public, tomorrow they will demand the right to make love in public. Just because they are two adults who have each other’s consent, don’t they have any responsibility towards society? How will you explain such acts to your 5-year-old or 60-year-old grand mom.
“Queen Victoria did not build Khajuraho”- This is another silly example that a few liberal thinkers use. The Khajuraho temples feature a variety of art work, of which 10% is sexual or erotic art outside and inside the temples. Some of the temples that have two layers of walls have small erotic carvings on the outside of the inner wall. Some scholars suggest these to be tantric sexual practices. Other scholars state that the erotic arts are part of Hindu tradition of treating kama as an essential and proper part of human life, and it’s symbolic or explicit display is common in Hindu temples. Ever bothered to find out what occupies the remaining 90% of the Khajuraho temples? India has an area of 3,287,590 km², while entire Khajuraho occupies an area of 21 km². The erotic paintings only occupy a surface area of 2 km². Does that make entire India the land of erotica? What a foolish comparison? Ever bothered to find out what makes the rest of India?
“India is the land of Kamasutra”- I again present the same argument. The work of one author cannot define the reading and writing habits of an entire nation. ’50 shades of grey’ has sold more copies that Kamasutra, does that make Britain (EL James is a British author), the land of sexual fantasies. After 500-1000 years is that what Britain be remembered for? Certainly, not. It is an argument of a weak mind. A mind governed by senses, never bothering to explore the complete truth. It presents every argument that baptizes indulgence. As an author of few books, I cannot expect India to be stereotyped based on my work. India is also the land of Upanishads, Bhagwad Geeta, Shastra, Purans, Vedas, Ramayana, Dhammpada and Mahabharata but the readers of the Kamasutra will never waste their time on such scriptures because they talk more about abstinence than indulgence.
“We produced 1.2 billion people population, but we cannot kiss in public”- Understand once and for all 1.2 billions population is a result of lack of education. If these people were kissing and making love in the public there would have been 2.4 billion people in India. Sex is free or very cheap. If two adults consent to sex, they can have sex when they want and it will not cost much. Certain urges should be controlled. I am not suggesting a ban on sex but imagine what where will the population graph head- if people start making love everywhere they can and anytime they feel (most of them are always ready for the action).
Support the Movements that help the world
Hope the educated youth also think about the impact of supporting ‘Kiss of Love’ movements. Here are few movements where they can contribute:
Adopting pet movements
Visiting old age movements
Clean India Movement
Educating the underprivileged movement
Eradicating diseases movement
Eradicating poverty movement
Removing corruption and increasing transparency
If they do not wish to help the society please join the self-improvement movement. Eat healthier, read good books (not just kamasutra), exercise more and improve your life. Be a better citizen and make sure your life serves as a good example for the future generations.
Siddhartha Sharma is the bestselling author of 5 books- 60 Keys to Success, The Millionaire Entrepreneur, Love Your Mondays and Retire Young, Thank God It’s Monday, and Mom I Got the Job. His seminar, workshops and books have transformed over a million lives.