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“Even if arguments are avoided, the absence of warmth and connection can quietly shape the overall family environment,” she explains.

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What children really pick up on

Children are often more perceptive than adults assume, adds Dr Shankar. “Even in the absence of overt conflict, they can sense tension, detachment, or unspoken issues between parents. Growing up in such an environment can lead to confusion, insecurity, and anxiety.”

She further explains that children may also internalise unhealthy relationship patterns, such as believing that love requires self-sacrifice or that emotional needs should be suppressed. Over time, this can affect how they communicate, form bonds, and navigate relationships in their own lives.

Strained together vs healthy apart

From a modern mental health perspective, the quality of the environment matters more than the structure of the family.

“Children benefit more from emotionally stable, respectful surroundings—whether parents are together or separated. Witnessing a strained relationship can normalise conflict, resentment, or emotional withdrawal. In contrast, children raised by separated but emotionally healthy parents are more likely to develop stronger emotional intelligence, healthier boundaries, and a more secure sense of self,” adds Dr Shankar.

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