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Archana and Parmeet had a casual fling. (Source: Instagram/@archanapuransingh)

Why do people prefer casual relationships?

According to psychologist Rasshi Gurnani, whether someone prefers long-term relationships or casual flings depends on their personality, emotional experiences, and attachment style. “People who grew up with stable, nurturing bonds often look for committed relationships, seeing intimacy as emotionally meaningful. On the other hand, those with a more avoidant attachment style may lean toward casual encounters, valuing independence over emotional closeness,” she told indianexpress.com.

Personal values also play a significant role — some individuals naturally seek deeper connections, while others enjoy the excitement of fleeting experiences. The psychologist added that hormones like oxytocin, which promote bonding, can draw some individuals toward lasting relationships.

While people with healthy self-esteem often view intimacy as something meaningful, tied to trust and connection, rather than just physical gratification, those with lower self-worth may sometimes seek casual encounters for temporary validation, she explained, adding that body autonomy also plays a big role. When people feel in control of their physical and emotional boundaries, they make more thoughtful and authentic choices about intimacy.

Gurnani highlighted that seeing the body as more than just physical but as part of one’s emotional and spiritual self often leads to a more intentional and mindful approach to relationships. “In the end, it all comes down to a mix of emotional wiring and life experiences,” she noted.