It is magical how a film touches you and wakes you up to a realisation about life and its unknown, untraceable patterns. That is what Dear Zindagi seem to have done to me. It wasn’t like Kaira (Alia Bhatt) was speaking to the counsellor Dr. Jehangir Khan (Shah Rukh Khan). It was me asking questions that were always in my head but I didn’t know how to ask, or who to ask. Through her film, Gauri Shinde has given answers to at least a few of the questions.
We take our life too seriously. In fact, we take it so seriously that often we forget that we have to live it as well. We let go of so many things in order to run after what we aspire – whether that’s our career or relationships. We forget to say thank you to people who have been influential in a good or bad way and somewhere in the corner of our heart, we give space to darkness and hatred, which eventually makes us feel lonely, pushing us away from people who love us.
Even though we say we don’t care about ‘Log Kya Kahenge?,’ it is somehow hardwired into our DNA. We give ourselves tags. Even before others can raise fingers at our character, we do it to ourselves. But have we ever thought why? This film has made me realise that I am solely responsible for how I steer my life but that doesn’t have to do anything with my opinion and my choices. And also that if you and I tend to change our partner for one reason or the other, it doesn’t reflect on our character, it reflects on how confident we are about what we want.
I also learned that not every risk is worth taking, no matter how big an achievement it leads us to. I realised that instead of putting ourselves through a painful journey, it is okay to pick the easiest option available. Because at that point of time, it is the best decision to be made. And this applies not only to our career but also our relationships.
I realised that you always have five people around you who have your best intentions at heart. These people make you love yourself, bring the best out of you and you do not have the fear of being judged around them. But even these five people are not constant. However, at every point of your journey, you will find people you can count on. And a few of them, even if they go away, will always leave some beautiful memories for you. So, if losing people has become one of your concerns then you should know that it is perfectly okay.
In the mad rush that is life today, we have also forgotten to forgive people. Mistakes happen, after all, we are humans, but that doesn’t mean anyone is to be punished for an entire lifetime, right? In fact, we should talk to them and get away with the differences. During this process, we might yet again find the old charm that connected us to this one person, and you never know where the bond might take you.
But all of this doesn’t mean that we need a Jehangir Khan in life, until unless he is someone as charismatic as Shah Rukh Khan. We have such people around us but all we need to do is take out time for ourselves and be fearless about putting our concerns out there.
After I watched the film, I came out smiling and the first thing that I did was thank people for known and unknown reasons. Caught up with friends who were left behind because of a busy schedule. And yes, all of it did make me happy. So, for me, Dear Zindagi was all worth my time this weekend.