School teachers Ashley and Petronella Eates have been married for three years. But two miscarriages within such a short period convinced them of the need to adopt. On Saturday,the couple will bring home three-month-old Aedyn. In fact,Aedyn will join little Lisa Marie who was also adopted and will turn three on March 9.
The Eates are among the increasing number of couples who have chosen to adopt,more importantly,girls over boys.
According to the Society of Friends of Sassoon General Hospital (SOFOSH),girls have had been in huge demand for the past four years.
In 2012,a total of 45 girls were adopted vis a vis 35 boys,of which 41 girls were adopted by Indian couples as against 27 boys. In 2011 as well,the statistics reveal an interesting rise in the number of girls being adopted in comparison with boys. That year,43 girls and 42 boys were adopted,while in 2010 it was 39 each who were adopted. In 2009,a total of 41 girls were adopted vis a vis 23 boys while in 2008,a total of 46 girls vis a vis 30 boys were adopted.
An interesting pattern has emerged that shows a tendency among Indian couples to adopt not just one but two children to make their families complete,SOFOSH Director Madhuri Abhyankar said,adding that each year at least 50 to 60 couples adopt children from the hospital.
Petronella,who will adopt her three-month-old son on Saturday,said that even before they were married they had decided to adopt a child along with one biological child. However,after going through two miscarriages,we decided to adopt two children and once we adopted Lisa Marie,we realised that there was no difference between a biological child and an adopted child. Thats why,we decided to go ahead and adopt another child, Petronella said.
While the Eates will now have a son and a daughter,IT professional Prashant Deshmukh was quite clear in his mind about his wish to adopt a girl.
Girls are always close to their fathers and my wife and I were eager to adopt a daughter, said Prashant,whose daughter Ira is now two and a half years old. Due to medical reasons,it was not possible to conceive and we had decided to continue working on it. But there was always something missing and after adopting Ira,our lives revolve totally around her, said Prashant.
For doctor couple Dr Shashank and Shubhangi Shah from Baramati,it was always about adopting two children. Our son Aditya is six years old and Esha a year old, says Shubhangi,adding that there is no difference between a biological child and an adopted one.
However,as far as the adoption procedure is concerned,Petronella points out the waiting period,though quite long,has a purpose.
Petronella,who is in fact writing a book on adoption,points out that perhaps this phase is also important as it gives prospective parents the opportunity to gather their thoughts and analyse if they are really ready to bring up an adopted child as their own. Nature prepares us to bring a child into the world a gestation period of nine months. Adoptive parents should treat this waiting period as the gestation phase and prepare for the arrival of the child just like in normal pregnancy,she said.