Our 15-year-old son wishes to become a part of a rock band. He goes to sleep at about six and is awake all night listening to music,wears odd clothes,got his nose pierced. During the last few months,there has had hardly been any conversation between our schoolgoing son and us. Please help.
Our pre-teenaged daughter studies in a boarding school. Whenever she comes home,on the weekends or during holidays,we do not allow her to go out,we do not allow her to talk for long on phone. We are simply not able to let her go out of sight. Now when she comes home,she does not talk much to us. Please help.
Our 17-year-old son has not spoken with his father for six months. He refuses to do so even when asked to. He says each time he tries to talk,he gets a scolding and that we,his parents,do not understand him at all. Please help!
These are some of the queries PGIs Psychiatry Department is getting flooded with. Most of these hapless parents belong to the middle or upper middle class,where mostly they are working.
Says PGI Psychiatry Additional Professor Adarsh Kohli,These days parents do not know where to draw the line,how much to restrict a child. Mostly the cases that we get are of adjustment and relationship problems. To ease out the strains,we hold counselling sessions with the family. In some cases,first we call the children alone,the parents alone,try and see the conflict area and then,hold counseling sessions together as part of what we call family therapy. He added,If we see that the situation is still out of control and the problems persist,we refer them to psychiatrists for medical help.
There is a spurt in the number of such cases and the trend had started about a decade ago, said Dr Hardeep Singh,senior consultant,psychiatry,Fortis Hospital,Mohali. The reasons could be many,varying from genetic to environmental to pressure on a child to perform,from school,family,peers leading to anxiety and high stress levels.
Though the contributing factors may be different,a large number of such cases go undetected and that is when the problems increase. Later on,these children are the ones who become anti-social elements are involved in road rage cases,shooting incidents and are known for their brash behaviour, said Dr Singh.