Terri Evans — single mother of four children — wrote a public Facebook post shaming her 12-year-old son for his bullying behaviour. He reportedly stepped on the foot of a girl at his school so hard that he broke his shoe. Evans was horrified by his behaviour, and deactivated his Facebook profile as a punishment. She originally just meant to teach him a lesson — that ‘his actions have consequences, he is not big, clever, hard or funny’ — however, the Facebook post went viral with over 50,000 likes. She has since made the post private and detagged her son from it.
She wrote, “Absolutely disgusted that my 12 year old son saw fit to purposefully tread on a new girls foot at school and twist his foot with such force it broke her brand new shoes (causing the heel) to snap. ‘I’ll tell you something Jacob, if you so much as breath in her or anyone’s direction in a bullying manner I will personally hand you over to their parents for every demeaning chore they see fit for as long as they do… kiss goodbye to your birthday money as you will be buying the girl a new pair of shoes and a bunch of flowers! #iwillnothaveabullyinmyhouse.”
She received a lot of criticism for her move, though. One Facebook user wrote, “Why extend the humiliation? Your poor son. This will haunt him forever. A mistake at 12, online now for all to see.” Another wrote, “This is an incredibly dangerous thing to do to any child… What is even more disturbing are the huge numbers on here who cannot even see the dangers of what she has done.”
In response, Evans made an addition to the post, “I don’t much care who doesn’t agree with my parenting style, my son humiliated and embarrassed a girl, regardless of his reasoning (which was he didn’t expect to break the shoe he just thought she may step out of it or stumble) that little girl still cried, for anyone’s knowledge that girl may have left her old school because she was being bullied… then imagine how much worse my son’s ridiculous act would have made her feel.’ She concluded: ‘I am wholly confident this was a single occurrence which won’t be repeated.”
Evans felt so strongly of her son’s actions as she has a friend who is still affected by childhood bullying. “There was a new girl who had come to his school, he stood on her shoe and he did it on purpose,’ she said of her son according to Daily Mail. ‘I just thought could you imagine if she had been bullied at her previous school and come to her first few days at a new school and some child who she doesn’t know stands on the back of her feet. I would be devastated, I would be gutted for the little girl and her parents when she went home,” she said.
‘That is why I did it, to show his friends. ‘All my status basically said was if you do it again I will give you to the parents myself. “I have never had a child who has been bullied. My son is a straight A student, his hobbies include playing the piano. He is not that kind of boy, socially he just copies other people unfortunately but he had to know that it was wrong,” she added.