Karma Sutra: Why is that even in a crowd, we feel ‘oh so lonely’?

We are so caught up in the objective world that we spare little thought for this stranger rather strangers residing in each one of us.

Written by Ritu S | New Delhi | Published:February 29, 2016 5:02 pm
looking and waiting alone The cure to our loneliness lies in exploring our subjective self. (Source: Thinkstock Images)

It’s a pity that in spite of being blessed with the faculty of reason which allows us to understand our environment and communicate with our fellow beings in several languages we are still ‘oh so lonely’.

But what is it that causes us to be so lonely on this well populated planet? Why is it that the swarm of people at best lend us a comforting presence but do nothing to relieve our loneliness?

Our sense of loneliness seems almost as incommunicable as the wise have claimed for wisdom to be. Any effort at trying to resolve it only further isolates us. If anything we feel let down both by our inability to deal with it and the ‘other persons’ indifference to our need to connect sans the walls. And we are back to our lonely prison.

The world and its reality is both objective and subjective in nature. The objective world of geographical landscape and scientific and logical deductions offers uniform information and knowledge to those who seek it. But the subjective world of an individual is surrounded by areas of impenetrable darkness. The depths of our personality, our dreams, our fears are unknown even to us. There are selves within our self that we encounter as and when exposed to external stimuli. This self which comes to the fore may shock or surprise us. Either which way, it certainly intimidates us for it is unknown to us.

We are so caught up in the objective world that we spare little thought for this stranger rather strangers residing in each one of us. Perhaps we fear this stranger. We would like to believe that we are all that people perceive us to be. And all our effort is directed in being the product of our conditioning. To be who we are expected to be, to say what we are expected to say… As social beings it’s healthy because society is all about order and our predictable actions lend it the stability it needs to thrive in. But to expect this society, which is a part of the objective world, to cure us of our loneliness is a futile exercise.

The cure to our loneliness lies in exploring our subjective self. The stranger or strangers that reside in each one of us. The fascinating depths and layers of our personality waiting to be explored. Who are we? Why are we the way we are? What do we really want? Why did we come into being? Who propels us to carry on in spite of our odds?

To be immersed in the depths of our being is like being on an unexplored island waiting to be discovered. It is a life long affair. Once we get acquainted with this multi faceted inner being, we cease to be lonely. We may be alone but never again are we lonely.

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