Happy Valentine’s Day: How love changes from 16 to 60

When we posed this question to different generations, we learnt that love evolves as we age and tends to become universal.

Written by Parmita Uniyal | New Delhi | Updated: February 13, 2015 12:59 pm
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Love at first sight, infatuation, attraction, understanding, caring, sharing, companionship, trust, support, memories, moments, togetherness, happiness, God, I, me and myself.

What is love? One word, infinite interpretations.

So, when we posed this question to the age group ranging from 16-year-old to 60-year-old, we learnt that love evolves as we age and tends to become all-encompassing and universal over the years.

Today’s teenagers are however more practical than yesteryear generation, who feel that at their age, love of their parents matter to them the most.

As they grow a bit old and reach their mid-twenties, they seek companionship, trust and support. And as they enter their 30’s and 40’s, they begin to enjoy small moments in life. Between 40 and 50, lovers are comfortable with each other and enjoy their togetherness the most. As they cross 50’s, they find love in everything including animals and trees.

Isn’t that a ‘lovely’ journey. Here’s what people from different generations feel about love.

16-20

A lover is someone with whom you can share each and everything and you have trust on the person – Roopkiran, 16

The love for your family, parents is stronger at this age than the love for a boyfriend. When we are in 9th or 10th, we experience infatuation that we misunderstand as love, but as you grow older, you realise that your family is your biggest support system – Radhika, 18

Love according to me is care. Love is not only hugs, kisses and romantic woes, its something more than this. Love is all about the geniun care and concern. The person can’t sleep when you are late at night, person is worried when your phone is switched off, he calms you down when you’re angry, he feels the pain when you are hurt both mentally or physically. Love is something which mother does to her child. Love is simply awesome, one’s life is incomplete without love. – Smriti, 20

20-25

Love for me is companionship. You love your friends, parents, family, pets, etc. Anyone who is right behind you no matter how foolish you be. That’s love – Aditi, 22

Love is amorphous and subjective to different personalities in my life. And it is consistently evolving too. I also feel that love is proportional to good memories. The more memories you have shared the more you feel connected. – Krishna, 25

25-30

At 28, there’s method to the madness called love. It is still impulsive with a hint of caution. It is still adventurous with a touch of deliberation. – Amrah, 28

Love is care and concern. Understanding how you can make the other person grow. It is about the support and belief two people share – Sweta, 29

You are in love, when you trust completely, give unconditionally, and believe in the goodness in the other. – Sonika, 30

30-35
Love is an idea that never ages. With an innocence of an early morning dew drop, it’s a fellow traveller that inspires you to go on in life instead of ‘growing old in life’. It’s a silent guide, and a reflection of the personality you are. – Wali, 32

Love cannot be restricted to one person. Love cannot be quantified. Love cannot be compared. Love is omnipresent, much like god. Love is actually within ourselves. – Kriti, 34

Love, when one has spent years in courtship and marriage and then children, changes. The bond gets stronger with time. With the mystery reduced, mundane does take over but one cherishes the familiarity and the shared history everyday. Expression too takes on a not-so-subtle hue change. Where it used to be flowers and things, now it becomes thoughtful deeds – change of a diaper, planning of dinner for just the two of us, getting up in the night when the baby cries etc. I think the secret perhaps also lies in conversation. If one is able to talk at 20 then 30s too look promising. – Anjali, 35

35-40
At 38, married, with an 11-year-old kid- For me, Valentine’s Day means going out on a lunch date with my pre-teen daughter, while my husband gets busy with his work. And also pampering her with her favourite doughnut and chocolates. –Sarika, 38

40-50

When you are 16, you want love Emraan Hashmi mode, when you evolve, say post 40, you want love Gulzar mode – Alok Puranik, 48, Author and Satirist

When you think you fall in love, you don’t really love. You start to love over the period of time as it grows within you and multiplies. Love intensifies when we fight, it strengthens when we are in crisis. It’s an ever-growing and ever-evolving process. – Dr Deepa Sharma- In her 40s (Faculty in Department of Commerce, Maharaja Agrasen College, Delhi University)

When you are in your teens and twenties, love stands for everything passionate, dramatic and ecstatic. But over the years, romance begins to mean different things. It means coming back to someone with whom you want to share the whole day’s events and who makes you feel as if you have finally come home – to the safety and comfort of a loving companion. – Amrita Sharma, Author of What Did I Ever See in Him (In her 40’s)

Love during teenage years reflects all the confusions and insecurities of the growing up years. It is governed by passion, possession and peer pressure – which is heady but dangerous. Thirty years later it evolves into a need for companionship and togetherness. – Keshav Chaturvedi, Author (In his 40’s)

50-60
To be able to care for someone – be it your loved ones, someone unknown, animals or even trees – is love. It doesn’t give you anything in return but satisfaction. To win, to lose, to dictate, to compete is not love. And love definitely is not a business; it’s not consumerism, for love is not just for rich people. It’s for everyone. – Kshama Sharma, 59 (Author, activist and former journalist)

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    aditi sharma
    Feb 15, 2015 at 10:42 am
    It's really warm and fuzzy. The kind of article that enlightens you on the more practical approach of love without hampering the soul of it. The kind of love one expects when no matter what your real age or appearnce or situation is, its just love.....
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    Sushil Jain
    Feb 14, 2015 at 9:58 am
    A Proposal on the definition of love - Love is a feeling related to all... when one feels related to the other, all qualities like trust, care, ... are released...naturally...
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    Sushil Jain
    Feb 14, 2015 at 10:04 am
    Sorry, there is a correction... Love is a feeling of being related to all....
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