If you are a married woman still proudly carrying your maiden name or someone who has taken the middle road and are a hyphenate, like me, invasive questions are the order of the day. “But you are married, no? You should use his name, no?” assorted cousins (yes, even this generation) remark.
“I would never allow my daughter-in-law to do this, once you are married, you are married,” crotchety old uncles tell you while fixing you with an evil glare. Relatives tell you how you are “disrespecting” his family by not taking his name. Nobody asks him if he is fine with it, and sure as hell no one is asking you.
In fact, recently, a prospective house owner had great qualms giving us his house on rent because he didn’t see eye-to-eye with such “modern-shodern” practices. At times, it seems like if sanskaars are taking a beating in India, it is women like you who are culpable. And Shakespeare had the temerity to ask, “What is in a name?”
That is why when Mrs Funnybones, aka Twinkle Khanna, shut up a man for questioning why she is still Twinkle Khanna when she married Akshay Kumar, her answer is priceless. After a man asked her, repeatedly, “Why Twinkle Khanna now u r Kumar got it???” instead of commenting on his grammar, this is what Twinkle had to say, “A lot of people bring this up,though not as stridently as this gentleman-Khanna it will always be #MarriedNotBranded.”
Grace and wit, now that makes for the apt comeback, Twinkle Khanna. But having used that, I doubt I will get the keys to that house. The price one has to pay for keeping one’s name.
Here’s what other women had to say about Twinkle’s answer…
@mrsfunnybones Please change your name to Twinkle Kumari and become 100% sanskaari.
— Ray Stings (@Purba_Ray) September 20, 2016
— very_filmy (@twitbandana) September 20, 2016
— Twinkle Khanna (@mrsfunnybones) September 20, 2016